Wednesday, July 27, 2011
Why are we usually so afraid to let the less-than-perfect parts of ourselves be seen? Why do we think that we alone are the only one with faults? Why do we think that people even care? People are so busy with the hustle and bustle of their own lives that they hardly have time to notice our messy parts, let alone their own. It's funny when you think about it. We are afraid of letting our broken parts be seen, but this is exactly what helps people to know us better. It builds trust. It builds loyalty. It creates interest. It sets you free.
My dear friend Catherine recently started a blog called Subtle Fire and I so admire her. Not only for her smarts, but for her bare-boned approach to telling it like it is. For showing how she views life through her own unique lens. Her blog is so raw and fresh and honest and engaging. She is writing with a truly authentic voice. She's a rock star.
I have always struggled with being the "good girl" and doing what I am "supposed" to do in life. I have always wanted to please my parents and make them proud. I didn't realize until I was in my 30s that you can be your messy, broken, lovely self, and still people will be proud of you. In fact, people are typically even MORE proud of you to show the less-than-perfect side of yourself because it takes courage. And from my prior blogs, you know how much I love courage.
My closest friend in high school Michelle taught me one of the most helpful concepts in navigating relationships, now and in the past. She said, "You like someone because. You love them although." You like people for certain qualities about who they are, but in order to truly love them, you care about them even though they (fill in the blank - drive you nuts sometimes, hurt you on occasion, show you their messy side...you get the picture.) Thinking this way allows people you love to be messy - and still be loved. Conversely, it allows you to do the same thing.
There is freedom in knowing that you can truly be your authentic self - you can make mistakes, you can show your "shadow" self, you can be flawed - and you can still be loved. Should it surprise me that it took me over 30 years to figure this out? Such a simple concept, and yet not such an easy one to fully embrace. Better late than never, right?
Although it is scary sometimes, there is no sense in hiding parts of yourself. By accepting them and acknowledging them, you are giving other people permission to do the same for themselves. This is such a gift to them - and a gift to yourself.
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
This time of year there are summer cookouts galore. Lots of burgers and dogs, baked beans and potato salad…and potato chips. Chips and dips and more chips!
There is something about potato chips that is so appealing. The combo of crunch, salt, and carbs can be hard to resist. If you are concerned about the calories, never fear! If you love chips, you can still eat them! Just grab a handful and eat them in moderation. A handful here and there won't hurt.
If you find yourself in the potato chip aisle with a big bag of chips in hand, flip over the bag and check out the ingredients. You want to buy chips with only 3 ingredients: Potatoes, oil, and salt - that’s it! If there are more ingredients listed, put that bag back and check out some other brands. Personally, I think Cape Cod are best– they come in a reduced fat version too…
On the other hand, if it is too difficult to put a lid on your chip consumption (we all have those days!), there are some tasty substitutes that you can try. They may not have the exact salty-greasy-crunch that you are craving, but here are 5 healthier substitutes that you can bring to your next cookout – even if all of them are not your standard BBQ fare…
1. Pop Chips - Hands down, Pop Chips are #1. Made out of potatoes, they are popped, not fried. They have 6 varieties - something for everyone - including Original, BBQ, Sour Cream & Onion, Cheddar, Sea Salt & Vinegar, and Paremesan & Garlic.
2. Snapea Crisps – Watch out, they can be addictive, but at least you are eating real pea pods that contain fiber and nutrients like iron and calcium. You can find them at most grocery stores, Trader Joe’s and Whole Foods, or order them online.
3. Terra Chips – Be careful here because sometimes these can be as caloric as regular potato chips, but they pack one serving of vegetables into a good handful. They have a potato chip version (Terra Kettles), but I prefer the combo Mediterranean bag of beet, turnip, and sweet potato chips. Delicious!
4. Guiltless Gourmet Blue Corn Tortilla Chips – The Blue Corn tortilla chips are made from stone ground organic blue corn, expeller pressed canola/safflower/sunflower oil, salt, and a little lime. All of their 7 flavors are made with organic corn.
5. Kale Chips – Kale Chips are a low calorie nutritious snack. You can make them yourself easy-peasy. They are great for parties and a good conversation topic. They are simply kale, a little olive or coconut oil, and sea salt all mixed up and spread out on a baking sheet and baked at 350 degrees for 10-15 minutes (ovens vary so watch them to make sure they don’t burn.) I eat them by the handful - and often for breakfast!!
Try something new for your next backyard cookout and treat your friends and family to some new crunchy snacks this summer. I hope you enjoy them!